“I don’t want to live here……..”
“I don’t want to end up like my parents …..”
“I don’t want to be lonely……”
“I don’t want to be broke……..”
“I don’t want to be sick….”
“I don’t want to be in this relationship….”
“I hate this job….”
“I’m so jealous of my friend’s huge house…..”
How often do you fight the negativity with above mentioned thoughts? Thinking that if we do so, the positivity will automatically appear? Does it work? No, it doesn’t.
What it does though, it creates more stress and more anxieties in your life.
“The more you dwell on what you don’t want, the more of it you create.”
We know that we can change our mental and physical state instantly by changing our emotions. But how do we change our emotions? How do we even ‘change’?
Is the idea of you changing anything stressing you out? If it does, you are not alone.
First, let me explain ‘stress’ from a human primitive nervous system’s point of view.
Fight or Flight automatic stress response
When we feel threatened by a ‘predator’ in our environment, we start to pull all the energy out and around of our bodies that gets converted into cortisol and adrenaline.
This process activates our ‘flight or fight’ instinct, because our lives might depend on it. Our heart is pounding, we breathe faster, body and mind are hyper-alert, muscles are tense, digestion slows down…. I’m sure you felt like this before.
There might not be ‘predators’ or T-Rex chasing us, but this happens to us on a daily basis.
For example, you are driving your car and suddenly you notice in the rear-view mirror a police car with the lights flashing and siren blaring.
Your pulse will quicken, your body will most likely go into a panic mode even if you have your driver’s license, insurance, permit, ownership, and all the whistles and bells.
It will still summon an automatic stress response in your body, that makes you feel like running away. You are in a high arousal state.
Adrenal hormones fire up your entire body. And by doing this, you use up a lot of energy.
In the short term – this is natural. It can save your life!
However, if we constantly live in this ‘survival’ mode, if our automatic stress response is always ‘on’ – our bodies are flooded with stress-hormones. It can cause physical and mental illnesses.
I ‘stress’ when the traffic light turns orange and I’m still a few meters away from crossing that intersection. Geesh!
Can stress be addictive?
Dr. Joe Dispenza and other scholars teach us that the hormones of stress are highly addictive. And as with any addiction, we crave our daily ‘fix’. We often use the challenges and situations in our life to reaffirm our addiction to the stress hormone – just to feel something familiar.
Can you understand now why this makes any change even more challenging?
We have conditioned our bodies to get addicted to chemical ‘rush’ from unhealthy relationships, stressful jobs and other negative emotional situations.
In his book – Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself – Dr. Joe Dispenza says ‘from a psychological perspective, overproduction of stress hormones creates the human emotions of anger, fear, envy and hatred incites feelings of aggression, frustration, anxiety and insecurity and causes us to experience pain, suffering, sadness, hopelessness and depression.’
Isn’t that fascinating?
This is why most people spend the majority of their time submerged in negative feelings, thoughts and emotions.
Negative feelings, thoughts and emotions create stress and anxieties.
These ‘survival’ emotions draw our vital energy. We become solely consumed by the outer world, because the stress hormones demand that we pay attention to things, places to go, people we have to meet, source of our problems, our body parts, our weight, our looks in comparison to others – and so much more. Sounds exhausting, doesn’t it?
We become less conscious, less aware, less mindful and less spiritual. We develop stress-related problems like overeating, headaches, hair loss, irritability, hormonal imbalance and anxieties.
Reduce stressing by changing your physiology
Easier said than done.
You, me, all of us – we know WHAT to do to stop stressing. There are myriads of techniques, tools and tips on how to handle stress. And yet, the majority of humans spend their lives living in stress.
Why? Why don’t we ‘just do it’? Why are we so resistant to change?
One of the biggest factors in resistance to change is fear.
“I’m not ready yet!”
“What if I fail?”
“I already tried it, it didn’t work!”
“What will my family/friends/neighbors think?”
“I’m scared to tell my spouse…”
“I don’t want anybody to know I have a problem.”
“It will take too long.”
“It is too hard to do!”
“What if I lose my friends over it?”
“I don’t know what comes next.”
“It’s not good for my image!”
Do you recognize any of these as your way to resist?
What you resist, persist.
I don’t have a definite answer on how to stop stressing. It depends on many factors.
I can only share with you what helps me and my clients. You need to find something that works for you.
The best, and fastest way to do that is to find the WHO.
Replace HOW with WHO and you’ll get there faster.
Have your past efforts to make any lasting change in your life—physical, emotional, or spiritual — fallen short of the ideal of yourself that you imagined?
Why have those efforts failed? It has more to do with your beliefs about why your life is the way it is than with anything else, including your perceived lack of will, time, courage, or imagination.
At M-Unity we use different modalities to help our clients to cope with stress. Our approach is tailor made to our clients needs, personality and stage of ‘willingness to change’.
However, every inadequacy in your life can be traced to these main omissions:
You haven’t accepted and committed yourself to living by the truth that your thoughts have consequences so great that they create your reality.
You haven’t accepted the fact that YOU ARE responsible for your emotions, thoughts, feelings, and behaviour.
Maybe it isn’t what you wanted to hear, but it is what you need to hear.
My amazing associates and I, we can help you to transform into the most vital, stronger, healthier, resilient and happy YOU. Fitness, nutrition, mindfulness and anything else you need help with – we got it.
The question is – Do you love yourself enough to do this? Are you tired of trying and failing?
We are here for you!
I know YOU CAN! Do you?